Grief, loss and loneliness

Grief has no timetable

There is no 'normal' length. Some people feel better after a few months; others stay overwhelmed long after the death, especially after a sudden death, a suicide or the loss of a child.

• Exhaustion, disturbed sleep, a sense of unreality.
• Anger, guilt, sometimes relief — all of these exist.
• Loss of motivation, difficulty returning to work or school.
• The feeling that everyone else moved on and you are alone.

Loneliness and isolation

• You can feel alone while surrounded by people: that counts too.
• Isolation grows after a move, a separation, job loss or illness.
• Helplines take calls every day from people who simply want to talk.
• Support groups and community houses help rebuild contact at your own pace.

When to worry

• Thoughts of death or of joining the person who died: call 0800 32 123 or 1813, 24/7.
• No activity and no contact for weeks.
• Using alcohol or medication to cope.
• A young person running away or talking about leaving: youth services can step in quickly.

Useful numbers

• 112 — emergencies (police, fire, ambulance), 24/7
• 107 — Télé-Accueil, free anonymous listening line, 24/7 (French)
• 106 — Tele-Onthaal, free anonymous listening line, 24/7 (Dutch)
• 0800 30 030 — domestic violence helpline (French)
• 1712 — helpline for violence and abuse (Dutch)
• 0800 32 123 / 1813 — suicide prevention lines, 24/7

Frequently asked questions